What to do during a date

What to do during a date


Do not know what to do on a first date or Can't continue a second or third date? Follow these instructions, and you'll soon be on your way to a fabulous social life!

Glowing Steps

1. Don’t look at other people. Focus your attention on your date and make them feel as if they matter the most to you compared to other people.
   
2. Let them know you care by doing something interesting and memorable with them. Take them disc golfing, or work together to build a birdhouse to hang outside the window, or bake a raspberry pie together from scratch. Show them your personality by teaching them something you are good at; if you are a man and skateboard, teach them how to Ollie. If you really like this partner (and want them to like you back) then you should be different from all the other people vying for their attention.
   
3. Wait at least a few dates before pouring on the romance; romance too early is just creepy. Subsequently, you can buy them gifts when the relationship progresses but only when it is totally unexpected. Predictability is boring, but on the 9th date (or any other random number), a single long stem rose and a "Happy Thursday!" hug will really make their day.
   
4. Be yourself and just put your best foot forward. Don’t exaggerate or boast about your credentials, successes, etc. Instead tell them what you really enjoy in life, what gets you excited and want to leap out of bed to pursue. Ask them what they really love in life and what gets them excited. Feel the change in energy during this conversation and revel in it. Then live it by taking them on these activities with you and joining theirs! Sincerity is the best policy. Nobody feels more comfortable than around people who are genuine and sincere.
   
5. Don't ever talk about your past relationships. At least, don't keep harping on them. This is a no-no and a sure turn-off. You will only project the impression that you are unable to let go. If your partner asks about your last relationship, just tell them that you realized the two of you weren't as compatible as you initially thought, so you have moved on to look for someone with whom to discover greater mutual happiness. Keep it brief and don't ask about their ex.
   
6. Treat your first date as an "interview". The purpose of a first date is to discover if the other person has the qualities and characteristics to be a good partner for you. Don't be rude or tell them that you are judging them, but keep in mind that you are evaluating them to decide if you want to spend considerable amounts of time with this person. They will read between the lines and notice that they are with a partner who knows what they want. If you are not ready to be in a committed relationship, let them know straight away so that you do not give them false hope. Remember, you can communicate most effectively with them through personal style and confidence, not exaggerations and bragging.
   
7. Be observant. After dating for a while, you will be able to determine if this person is suitable for you for life or not. During dating, keep both eyes wide open and look for warning signs, but as things begin to get more serious, be sure to kindly let them know if there are things that you would like them to change.
   
8. Buy them small token gifts to let them know you care without breaking your bank. After all, they want the gift because it indicates you are thinking about them and care about them. Try not to buy giant gifts like giant teddy bear during a normal date, it will totally turn her off. Try to get something simple or unique like a small teddy bear or a couple keychains. Note that by giving items that comes with a couple will really add more flavours to your relationship or friendship. Couple gift items give each others a sense of identity and it will be very romantic when both of you meet up carrying the same items. Click here for ideas of Glowing couple's gifts
   

9. Don't act uninterested or frown. Being disrespectful/rude during a date is not good, even if you don't mean to come off as uninterested. Dazing off into space while s/he is eating/talking isn't good either, and looks like you want to get out as soon as possible.
   
10. To keep a healthy "aura" or "air" about you, smile subtly if you have nothing to say for the moment. Or, if you're bored with what they're saying, end the topic by laughing somewhat "naturally" and say, "Yeah" "That's true" or "I agree." Then look off to a distance with your smile and bring up another topic either related to the previous topic or about the environment around you - "Wow, the stars are beautiful."
    

Glowing Tips

• Holding serious conversations is perfectly fine. But do not forget to add a spark of humor to your conversations. Humor can create a stronger bond of friendship between you two. It is also great to crack romantic jokes, as it brings up the possibility of what might happen between the two of you.
  
• The best time to date is during high school or your undergraduate years as you are young with no "life baggage", but you can also date if you are single again. Marriage is meant to last for better or for worse till death do us part. Enjoy dating while you can and live life to the fullest.
  
• No need to go to expensive cafes or restaurants when you cannot afford it. A romantic picnic on the beach at night or just a walk around her favorite shopping complex can pave way for ice-breaking friendly conversations.
  
• If you have a problem on how to jump-start a good conversation, try to ask questions first. Listen to their responses and use that to generate lines of conversation that interest you both.
  
• Although this is not always possible, try to become friends with the person in group situations before moving into one-on-one dating. This will help eliminate a lot of the awkwardness associated with first dates and give you a better sense of compatibility without any real commitment.
  

Glowing Warnings

• Don't rush or settle for someone who doesn't really make you happy! You have your whole life to find a truly wonderful partner. Don't accept just anyone as "good enough"; you deserve someone great!
  
• Don't take things out on them. If you have had a bad day, still greet them with pleasure and a big smile. Don't show up for your date complaining about the traffic, your boss, or your job. If you must whine, whine a little during dinner and end that very short whine with a "glad I'm here with you now!" remark.